One of my associates once told me that you cannot help anyone in life unless you are helping them from a position of strength. He used the analogy of a river current with two friends . One friend was caught in the current while one friend was in the muddy bank . As the friend came by in the current the friend did nothing to help him . A little further down the river a man standing on a rocky bank and reached out to grab the strangers arm and pull him into safety. The friend that was saved stormed down the riverside to his friend and proclaimed " why didn't you grab for me while a complete stranger did "! His friend explained to him that he was standing in mud and did not have solid footing to grab him. If he had they both could have drown together. The man on the rocky bank was standing on